Wednesday, October 21, 2009

A Farewell Letter to a Friend.

Saying goodbye is never easy. It never will be.
But remembering them in your life, is the one thing we can give them once they are gone.
I lost a friend on Friday.
So many things I wish I would have said, and could say now.
If I could write him a letter, it would go something like this:


Oh, so many things that I will always remember.

Firstly, thank you for the memories, and for allowing me to be a small part of your life.
I know we went our separate ways, but I was always waiting and watching for that girl to walk into your life that was meant for you.
You were a charmer, I will give you that. :)

We could walk into a room full of strangers, and because of you, leave with a group of new friends. You had that magnetic personality, and were never afraid to strike up conversations with any random person who happened into your vicinity.

Often times, those encounters were quite humorous, and I have you to thank for many a crazy conversation with a character of doubtable mentality. :)

On a tamer note, I enjoyed our random and quiet outings, like listening to Dashboard and driving all the way to Grande Rhonde to go to the casino, then changing our minds and turning around just to drive all the way back. I was a cheap date, this I realize.

There are things I still laugh at to this day, like your talent for choosing the best driveways to park at so we could kiss without you driving off the road. Cos yes, I'm sure you knew that I love getting glared at by grumpy, suspicious farmers. It's my favorite. *sigh*

Remember the giggle fits at 3am while we're walking around the block in the dark because you "had to get some air"? Of course, while you were getting air, I was smoking a cigarette, but I'm sure I needed the exercise.

And no, I still don't know how to walk in the dark, I still trip over my own feet in the daylight. :)

I love the way you got kind of squeamish when you watched me get my belly-button pierced. You said the needles were too big, and you swore you heard a *crunch* even though in my defense, it was your idea, you know.

And lastly, I suppose for old times sake I will finally settle our constant argument. I always disagreed for the sake of disagreeing, so I will give it to you now. You are right, it is Colin Farrell.

We had a lot of adventures, and did a lot of things, and had a lot of laughs.
I will always remember them, and you, as being a very tender part of my past.
You will be greatly missed.


John Philip Verd III ~ 1982-2009 ~


Anonymous said...

Aww, that's a nice letter K.
Those memories will never leave and you'll find you look back on them over the years.

Anonymous said...

That is really nice Karen, Reminds me of some of the great times we had together. P was always one for adventure.

Organic Meatbag said...

Very is hard to lose a friend...I'm sure he would have been honored by your words...

Susan said...

Tissue, please.

Candice said...

I'm so sorry to hear about your friend.

Your letter to him was beautifully written.

Little Ms Blogger said...

I'm so sorry you've lost a friend. I can't imagine what you're going through.

This is a beautiful letter and I bet he'd love it.

Anonymous said...

Hi Karen, I am an old friend of Phil's. My boyfriend was his roomate when he lived in Monmouth. My thoughts and prayers go out to everyone who cared for him. I am hoping you can tell me what happened, all we know is that he passed away. If there is anything you can share it will help put our minds at peace. My email is Thank you for your heart felt post.


88ender88 said...

i also was a friend of phils from baker oregon, lived with him for almost three months there while we tried to sort out the hurt that was driving us to hide from life. everything you said in the letter fit him to a T. was just searching him up to maybe say hi and found your blog. i'm so sorry.

Anonymous said...

wow,this is beautiful and im sure if your friend could see this now,hed love it.....its kind of a simular story to me and my boyfriend but he moved to Australia,but im terribly sorry for your loss xx

Anonymous said...

i think this letter was amazing. my favorite part is when you said he wanted to go out for air and u were smoking a cigarette. :/ im sorry for your loss though. i hope you feel better and are able to hold it together (:

Anonymous said...

Phil worked for me when he lived in Oregon and was at WOU, along with Carl and Shauna, to name a few. I just recently learned of his death. Your poem touched to the very core of who Phil was when I knew him. I could see him joking around, and generally being ornery:)
I have always worried about him over the years. Would it be possible for you to give me a little info on what happened? My email is I would really appreciate it.

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